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  • ContactRida 5:50 pm on March 30, 2014 Permalink | Reply
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    Thank god for all you've missed 

    It’s so funny how one simple post can smack you upside the head and make you realize how lucky you are and how charmed your life truly is. So props to: http://matthewalanbennett.com/2013/08/19/like-a-wagon-wheel-in-luckenback-tx/

    I may have to repeat my nursing assessment class this summer if I fail it this spring, but it will only make me better at my job. So thank god for all I’ve missed because it led me here to THIS!

    Really listen to the words of Hootie for they are truly profound.

    You just may have a light bulb moment like I did.

    Enjoy & Namaste:)

    • EYHCS 8:20 pm on March 30, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      This is awesome. I just finished scripting my blogs for the week and your post solidifies all the back and forth I was going through. Namaste!

      • ContactRida 2:57 am on March 31, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        thank you and so very happy you see now like you perhaps didn’t see before. so certain your hard work will be so awesome:)

  • ContactRida 12:36 pm on March 29, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: 2 week diet, Dr. Oz, rapid weight loss   

    i wanna get physical physical 

    Since I stopped eating meat for March (or Lent as someone asked me), I have lost about 9 pounds but I’m pretty sure that’s mainly recently freed fecal matter in my large intestines and excess body fluid. Do I feel better? I don’t know. It’s only been a month. I have stopped craving sweets, but maybe that’s because I’ve been drinking hot chocolate with Bailey’s Irish Cream, and also sweet red wine.

    I do notice the sweet more so in fruit and have become addicted to broccoli (why broccoli, no clue), but I’ve been browsing Dr. Oz’ site since he has trusting, sincere eyes. So I may try this rapid weight loss thing he’s promoting, though a body should only lose 2lbs a week, blah, blah… http://www.doctoroz.com/episode/dr-ozs-two-week-rapid-weight-loss-diet

    Five Easy Steps to Rapid Weight Loss:

    1) get rid of wheat (ok)

    2) get rid of artificial sweeteners (not a big fan anyway)

    3) get rid of sugars and alcohol (not gonna happen. what’s next?)

    4) no more coffee (not a prob, not a coffee drinker.)

    5) give up dairy (n-word what?!? another ‘not gonna happen’) and replace with greek yogurt (again, what?)

    Now Dr. Oz goes into what you CAN eat which is probably saliva, crab grass and fingernail clippings:

    1) start each day with hot water and 1/2 lemon (guess i can’t make a hot Toddy.)

    2) make a breakfast smoothie: combined unsweetened vanilla almond milk, 1/2cup of frozen berries, 1/2 banana, 2tbsp rice protein powder, and 2tbsp of flaxseed powder, and blend (so where would i get rice and flaxseed powder? wait. where would i get a blender?)

    Things you can have on this 2 week wonder diet:

    1) greek yogurt

    2) 6oz of protein

    3) 1/2 cup of brown rice

    4) organic green tea

    5) oil & avocado

    6) nuts, hummus and pickles

    (ok. this whole list just sucks serious balls. who wants to eat that totally bland, taste-deficient crap? not me.)

    But wait. There’s more: unlimited low-glycemic veggie consumption. (yaye)

    Final step: add probiotics & nutrients to speed up weight loss (those things don’t sound tasty.)

    The full program: http://www.doctoroz.com/slideshow/dr-ozs-2-week-rapid-weight-loss-plan-instructions

    I’m thinking this diet probably isn’t for me. I will see how much weight I lose when I add fish and brown rice to my diet and reduce juice and substitute with green tea. Will let you know of my success (or failure) in May. Until then, let’s get physical baby:



  • ContactRida 5:20 am on March 28, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Philadelphia, Philly, summer wordcamp,   


    How stoked am I to find WordCamp? VERY!!! And it’s taking place in my hometown, the City of Brotherly Love. Check it out:




    I hope to gain knowledge about the basics to make my site more aesthetically pleasing. I’ve only been writing since the fall and there are so many things I want to do to my site but don’t have the basic skills or patience to read (since I learn kinesthetically). So if you’re in Philly June 7-8, look me up and let’s do after party together, I have a totally sick terrace overlooking the city:)






    • litadoolan 6:44 am on March 28, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Look forward to hearing how it goes! Would love to go to a WordCamp! Hope they come near me. Love your photo. Beautiful smile! 😀 Have a great time.

      • ContactRida 10:31 am on March 29, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        thank you. i will post all about it when it happens. hope to learn great tips on blog design.

  • ContactRida 3:50 pm on March 27, 2014 Permalink | Reply

    WP Weekly Challenge 

    Let’s all get in better shape for the new year and for the rest of our lives. It starts with one step. To participate, tag your post with 2014Challenge and include a link to this post, to generate a pingback and help others find our challenges.

    Enjoy and Share.

    [i used a flashlight this time:]


  • ContactRida 7:23 am on March 26, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: frozen, Sir Walter Scott, , time wasted, unhonored, unsung, unwept   

    unwept unhonored and unsung 

    she stands upon the cliff frozen
    consumed by thoughts of yesterday and tomorrow
    feeling each second pass as if it were her last
    “can time not stop?” she begged of her god
    “or rather it slow in times of feast
    and fold upon itself during famine?”
    shadows of squandered love haunt her
    whispers of barren future press the same
    “time is unkind as it does not heal
    but replays misery unlearned.”
    but one step would end thoughts
    would end all she had been
    end all she would be
    one step, “and be forgotten
    nothing to mark i was here?”
    better to stay frozen
    than take step and perish with no name
    “unwept unhonored and unsung.”


    title & last line credit: Sir Walter Scott
    photo credit: http://www.visualphotos.com/photo/2×4499576/woman_standing_on_edge_of_cliff_21134.jpg

    • Mike 7:58 am on May 5, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      A splendid piece. The characterisation attracts the reader, as does the monologue and the redemption in the denouement is unexpectedly perfect. I attempted this theme in my Sonnet 017 but yours is the consummate work. Greatly enjoyed, thank you.

      • ContactRida 10:44 am on May 5, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        wow. thank you! i re-read this and was dumbfounded it came from me. i have these moments where i believe i channel from someone not myself.

        i remember my first thought for writing this came from Groundhog Day with Bill Murray and he says, “I thought that was Willard Scott.” so ‘unwept unhonored unsung’ came from a comedy.

        ‘time folding on itself’ comes from my eternal love of scifi. and if you must know, Janeway is the best captain after Kirk of course. and the ending comes from Shakespeare of course, ‘to be or not to be’ , to shuffle off mortal coil gives us pause and makes cowards of us all (i’m paraphrasing:)

        so short story long, so much inspired this one short piece. i wish i could write like this everyday. it seems the pieces i love sooooo much, no one seems to care about, and the stuff i call crap, that takes me literally 15 minutes to write, everyone loves. so there is the cosmic joke which is my life.

        i have my last nursing final today. sorry for writing so much. i will read your sonnet 017 after i get completely sh*tfaced after this last exam. i miss reading others’ works. i get inspiration from them and that secret part of me wishes i had their constant talent. i wish i wish i wish… i will NOT be unwept unhonored or unsung. i will be eternal. i will be.

  • ContactRida 12:46 pm on March 22, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , failing class, , , research paper   

    a beautiful mind 


    When I wrote my paper, I believed it to be crap. And no, that wasn’t me being negative. That was me knowing it wasn’t my best work. I felt the paper started with a bang but fizzled in the end since I was pressed for time, needing to get to work.

    But my professor thought it was “beautifully done!”. I got an ‘A’. I currently have 100% in this class. It is a theory/teaching class which involves a lot of writing. So go figure I have an ‘A’ in a writing class. Duh;)  I love to write. BUT, and this is a big but: I have a 75% in my nursing assessment class. WTF?!?

    I can’t seem to get my shit together for this class which involves so much ridiculous memorization and then diagnosing. I spent the past three years NOT diagnosing. I see the question on the test and it asks me to guess what little Jimmy has. How the phuck should I know what little Jimmy has? He either has ebola or he has a cold, I don’t know. Christ! I will fail if I don’t achieve 80%.

    And oh, I just finished an overnight shift where the patient was screaming to call the cops because I wouldn’t give him morphine, oxycontin and valium all at once. That wasted 30 minutes of my time and ALL of my patience. And then there was the CNA who was literally standing next to a patient’s room entering data into the kiosk on the wall while the patient’s call bell was going off. Right beside her! She wouldn’t go into the room until I walked pass her and asked if he was ok. Seriously?

    I really want to quit this job but I’m learning way too much and they are being really flexible with my schedule, and my mistakes. So maybe I will transfer after my vay-kay:) One of the patients said to me this morning. “A lot of people are gonna miss you when you leave.” LOL! “when” not “if”:) He’s one of my favorite patients, a war veteran, loves to curse out people, but the people almost always deserve it.

    So this is my life. I’m teetering on failing a class, with a physical assessment midterm coming up this Monday. So, I can’t seem to get very upset about it since I want to go to medical school anyway. And I really didn’t mean to talk so much about myself, but I haven’t been to therapy in awhile and writing is very therapeutic, sooooooooooo…

    So, short story long, here’s the beautiful paper from a beautiful mind🙂

    Tell Me a Story: The Use of Storytelling in Nursing
    Teaching Strategies
    X University
    School of Nursing

    Learning and teaching are inseparable. Neither can stand alone and neither can operate in a vacuum. Both must be interactive and complement one another. There are several learning theories and many teaching strategies. This paper describes one of many learning theories: cognitive development of socio-cultural historical influences. This paper also identifies one teaching strategy: storytelling. The research findings suggest cognitive development of socio-cultural historical influences and storytelling are interactive as well as complement one another. This paper applies the afore-mentioned learning theory and teaching strategy to andragogy: adult learning. This paper presents multiple literary resources which discuss the various benefits of storytelling in the academic and professional setting and posits the use of storytelling can create better outcomes in nursing education and nursing practice when applied to adult learners.
    Keywords: storytelling in nursing, andragogy, paradigm shift in nursing education

    .Tell Me a Story: The Use of Storytelling in Nursing

    There are several learning theories by which knowledge can be assimilated by nursing students and applied to their nursing practice. One such theory is cognitive development focusing on socio-cultural historical influences. As there are many learning theories, there are various teaching strategies by which to apply each theory. One such strategy is storytelling. The research suggests storytelling aligns with the major tenets of cognitive development of socio-cultural historical influences. This paper explores and examines the afore-mentioned learning theory and teaching strategy as it applies to andragogy: the art of adult learning.

    Literature Review
    Billings and Halstead (2012) describe a learning theory as the foundation that directs the teacher’s mode of instruction to his or her students, “Learning theories focus on how people learn” (p. 206). Billings and Halstead (2012) define the premise of one such learning theory, cognitive development: socio-cultural historical influence: “Learning is interactive and occurs in a social, historical context. Knowledge, ideas, attitudes, and values are developed as a result of relationships with people. Transformative learning occurs through social interactions that are situated in authentic environments” (p. 217).

    This theory involves the sharing of thoughts and ideas between learners. The teacher must have working knowledge of the competing differences and diversities presented by the learners and must also act as facilitator to broach and direct a wide variety of topics. Students have the opportunity to share their experiences from their own unique perspective with other students with differing experiences. This sharing and dialoging creates an environment rich in reflective thought: “Faculty can encourage student identification of the socio-cultural nature of their previous learning through personal reflection, storytelling and comparisons between textbook or clinical examples and their own experience” (Billings and Halstead, 2012, p. 218).

    Storytelling is one of many communication tools used in the socio-cultural historical influences theory. As such, the teaching strategy that complements it is storytelling, defined by Billings and Halstead (2012) as dialogue “that involves a conversation between two or more people” (p. 269). Storytelling as a teaching strategy is consistent with the major tenets of the socio-cultural theory. Haigh and Hardy (2011) state , “stories are reflective, creative and value laden, usually revealing something important about the human condition” (p. 408). Storytelling in education can create a sense of unity amongst students and provide a safe place to voice their fears and concerns (Haigh and Hardy, 2011). In healthcare, storytelling “can be beneficial to patients in creating an environment for the sharing of experience and the creation of supportive groupings… [and has] also been used to explore and erode symbolic boundaries between medics and nurses” (Haigh and Hardy, 2011, p. 410).

    Banks (2012) asserts another benefit of storytelling can be to advance health equity research:
    An African proverb says “until lions have their own ‘story tellers’ tales of a lion hunt will always glorify the hunter.” As long as researchers have sole responsibility for collecting and analyzing data, interventions will reflect researchers’ stories about what is important for advancing health equity… Storytelling may be an especially vital tool for building trust between researchers and populations where historical or on-going oppression, marginalization, power imbalance, and abuse of participants within the research context are part of the collective memory. (pp. 395, 396)

    Christiansen (2011) continues with the benefits of storytelling:
    [T]hrough an emotional and reflective engagement with multiple perspectives storytelling can bring about learning that involves a transformation in how students view themselves others and with implications for practice. Peer dialogue and conversation provide opportunities for students to clarify and share ideas, develop critical thinking and validate new ways of thinking that place the patient experience at the centre of learning. (p. 293)

    What is also now at the center of learning is the student. In the past and still present in some learning settings the teacher was the center of learning and gave direction without addressing the students’ differences or styles of assimilating knowledge. As adults have become students, different learning is needed. Andragogy, as popularized by Malcolm Knowles, is learning specifically for adults (Keesee, 2011). Knowles asserts that adult learners have six characteristics:
    1. Self-concept: adults are self-directed;
    2. Experience: adults learn and draw from their own past experiences;
    3. Readiness to learn: adults are more interested in information that is relevant to them;
    4. Orientation to learning: adults need immediate application to solve problems;
    5. Motivation to learn: adults are motivated by self esteem, curiosity and achievement;
    6. Relevance: adults need to know the relevance of the material being presented. (Keesee, 2012)

    Kantor (2010) also discusses the importance of moving away from the teacher centered, didactic, content laden approach of teaching:
    A linear thinking approach is replaced with an understanding of multiple perspectives and critical thinking skills are further enhanced. The significance of self-reflection and being open to new teaching and learning approaches has implications for nurse educators and consequentially nursing education. (p. 417)

    Cognitive development focusing on socio-cultural historical influences and storytelling can be applied to adult learners on many levels. Adults have varied experiences to share. Sharing their stories will validate their knowledge and also give them the respect they may feel they have earned. Adult learners may find a readiness to share storytelling to impart their knowledge to others as they have more confidence in themselves and their capabilities. Storytelling for adults may bridge gaps between younger adults and older adults and foster more cooperation in academia and the workplace.

    Limitations of These Literary References
    Some teachers may not feel comfortable directing such a broad, diverse population. Having knowledge of all cultures may be a daunting task for some teachers. There is also the skill of engaging students and patients to share their personal experiences in an environment they may not feel safe in. There may also be an issue of getting students to focus on specific, relevant issues. Not all will find this style of learning to be productive and may tune out.

    There are numerous learning theories and teaching strategies from which to draw from. Adult learners must be advocates for their own learning style and discover ways to have their voices heard. Not one shoe will fit everyone, but if there can be a way for each individual adult learner to walk in someone else’s shoes, if only for a moment, nursing education and nursing practice can make great forward strides.

    Banks, J. (2012). Storytelling to access social context and advance health equity research. Preventive Medicine, 55(5), 394?397. doi:10.1016/j.ypmed.2011.10.015

    Billings, D. M., & Halstead, J. A. (2012). Teaching in Nursing: A Guide for Faculty (4th ed.). St. Louis, MO: Elsevier Saunders.

    Christiansen, A. (2011). Storytelling and professional learning: A phenomenographic study of students’ experience of patient digital stories in nurse education. Nurse Education Today, 31, 289-293. doi:10.1016/j.nedt.2010.10.006

    Haigh, C., & Hardy, P. (2011). Tell me a story: A conceptual exploration of storytelling in healthcare education. Nurse Education Today, 31(4), 408-411. doi:10.1016/j.nedt.2010.08.001

    Kantor, S. A. (2010). Pedagogical Change in Nursing Education: One instructor’s Experience. Journal of Nursing Education, 49(7), 414-417. doi:10.3928/01484834-20100331-06

    Keesee , G. S. (2011, March 14). Teaching and Learning Resources / Andragogy: Adult learning theory [Web log post]. Retrieved from http://teachinglearningresources.pbworks.com/w/page/30310516/Andragogy–Adult%20Learning%20Theory

    photo credit: http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4o85vtygH1qzc84bo1_500.jpg

  • ContactRida 6:26 am on March 21, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: adult sex industry, Duke porn star, empowerment, lies, power, sex workers   

    Open Letter to Miriam Weeks 

    Dear Miriam,

    Perhaps it is your youth or perhaps it is your intelligence that has led you astray. Perhaps it is your skewed understanding of the word empower. Whatever the case, please stop spreading your life-altering and horrifically damaging lies about how a woman or young girl can take control of her life and empower herself through the avenues of adult entertainment.

    I applaud you on being accepted into Duke University. I applaud your earnest desire to relieve your parents of the financial burden of paying over $47,000.00 a year for Duke’s tuition. What I do not applaud is your complete and utter ignorance of your other glaringly obvious options other than being a sex worker to finance your education.

    Have you ever heard of community college? Community colleges are excellent schools and provide top notch education. Tuition is also very low for local residents. You can go to school part-time as I did and work at other jobs (albeit menial) to save for transferring to a four year degree university. Many community colleges have agreements with four year institutions and offer scholarships to high performing students. Did you try the scholarship route? You had four years of high school to position yourself as a serious candidate for a scholarship. Why didn’t you do that?

    Have you ever heard of patience? Why must you have an education right now? Tell me. What is urgent about being in college now that won’t be there four years from now? Tell me the urgency. Did you know that many young people join the military and after four years, Uncle Sam thanks them for their service by paying their tuition, most times in full. Did you not have a desire to serve your country?

    Have you ever heard of internships? Guidance counselors are excellent resources for finding internships for seniors in high school. Many internships can lead to well paying jobs and also give you the opportunity to discover what you truly love doing (with your clothes on). Did you seek the assistance of your guidance counselor or anyone on staff at your high school? You are the Y-Generation. Did you do any online research about internships and how beneficial they can be?

    Have you ever heard of sacrifice? Sometimes you need to have a really crappy job or two for a few years before you can get to do what you really want. I worked fast foods. I’ve cleaned homes. I’ve canvassed neighborhoods for political donations. I’ve worked retail. I’ve worked some very difficult and horrible jobs because I had a goal and it was my goal that kept me focused and kept me grounded. Did you have goals? Did you have any plans that involved keeping your clothes on that would lead you to those goals?

    Have you ever heard of Malala Yousufzai? She is the 15 year old Pakistani girl who was shot in the head by the Taliban for daring to voice her beliefs that girls deserve the right to an education. She continues to be that beacon of light to girls around the world who are denied an education based solely on their gender. As a sex worker, how are you a beacon of light like Malala to oppressed girls? http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/world/2013/03/27/malala-pakistan-book-deal/2026697/

    Have you ever heard of Sarah Blakely? Sarah is the founder of Spanx and a self-made billionaire. Listen to her story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_TZGVQBMg3M
    She didn’t turn to pornography to make her dreams come true. She hit the pavement and did not let rejections or obstacles stop her from achieving her dreams. She persevered. How have you persevered with your clothes on?

    Miriam, if you had said that stripping and being a porn star was a means to an end, I would have given you my support. But you didn’t say that. You said you love having sex for money and it is very empowering. If you want to live that lie, that’s your god given right, but you have no right to spread those vicious lies about the sex industry and recruit troubled and lost girls into your business. Those girls need to know they are more than a walking orifice for semen and random inanimate objects.

    If no one has shared this one particular truth with you, let me tell you now, “What we do today, echos throughout eternity.” You will not get to have a regular life now. You will always be a porn star. Look in the mirror and say those words aloud, “I will always be a porn star.” It will never matter what you accomplish because you will always have the taint of porn on your flesh. This is not slut shaming. This is soul shaming. You sold your soul to the devil for quick, instant returns. Miriam, the devil doesn’t give refunds or make exchanges. All sales are final.

    It saddens me to no end that you have surrounded yourself with people in the adult industry who tell you there are no consequences to being a sex worker. Like attracts like. An alcoholic isn’t going to tell another alcoholic that perhaps they should quit drinking. Human nature doesn’t work that way. Misery loves company. Look into some research on sex workers: http://www.soroptimist.org/whitepapers/WhitePaperDocs/WPProstitution.pdf

    Miriam, if you believe only one thing from this letter, please believe this: being a sex worker is not empowering. Explain to me how you are empowered when a penis is in your vagina, your rectum and your mouth simultaneously? Explain to me the power you feel when several men ejaculate on your face? This is the reality of pornography. Do you have exclusive rights over the films you produce? Do you do the producing, directing, writing, editing? If you can’t answers yes to all of those questions, then Miriam, you have no power. You have no power.


    • Michelle 8:52 pm on April 25, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I’ve just been reading about Miriam’s story and came across this post, a month late apparently, but I have to say, I find what you are posting here appalling. If you are uncomfortable with porn, fine. If you are uncomfortable with alternative expressions of sexuality, fine. But how dare you tell another woman how she can and cannot express her sexuality, what she should or should not enjoy, what she should find empowering? She will “always have the taint of porn on her flesh” not because her profession or her choices are disrespectable or shameful; she will feel that taint throughout her life because of ignorant, slut-shaming, hateful opinions like yours.

      • ContactRida 9:32 pm on April 25, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        seriously? “how dare I?” you must be completely ignorant of the 1st Amendment. for the same reasons you call my words ignorant and hateful, i give you this platform. it’s called the freedom of speech.

        show your face and don’t be yet another internet troll. do you have a WordPress blog? do you create anything of literary value? well i do. i place myself in the center of any storm i choose. as a survivor of rape, i will not let any woman spread the vicious LIE that taking a dick in her ass is empowering!!! perhaps you find it empowering but i won’t let any troubled girl be lured in by such ignorance.

        everyone’s body is a temple. what you choose to do with your temple is your right. but i will not let someone get away with with the tired yet enticing lie of sex being an empowering force and credible alternative for women.

        so i say with every gram of my being, “Go FUCK Yourself you ignorant cunt!”

    • amy 2:38 pm on March 25, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Funny how she did this to get money to go to an ivy league school, her degree is going to be far more useless than a community college degree because of her choice. No body is going to hire an ex pornstar, and with a degree as useless as women’s studies, it’s hilarious to me. Her only chance of success now is in the porn industry itself.

      • ContactRida 4:27 am on March 26, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        truer words were never spoken. it is always the intellectual who has the least common sense.

    • Tompengo 1:21 am on March 25, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      One of the Oxford definitions of empower is to make oneself “stronger or more confident.”

      Miriam appears to have gained confidence, partly from her participation in pornography and also by leveraging her academic research and communication skills. I can also understand her perspective, that being in control of her choices (at a broader level and during specific productions) is a key component of her empowerment.

      • ContactRida 3:21 am on March 25, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        you know who else derives power from sex? rapists. yes. rapists. go to this site and get educated on the effects of sexual abuse: http://www.rainn.org/get-information/effects-of-sexual-assault
        no one chooses to be in the sex industry. it chooses them and then they make up stories that they soon internalize and believe. i don’t care about any female who ‘chooses’ to be in the sex industry, as long as she doesn’t spread her lies and entice troubled young girls in. it sickens me to see an already battered girl, get more damaged by an industry and have people like you say it’s ’empowering’ to be gang-fucked on film. your thinking is one-dimensional. you don’t see the deadness and sorrow behind miriam’s eyes. i see it. i see it too often. and i won’t enable her as you have. women need to start standing up and saying NO! i am not a sexual object. this objectification of women has deadly consequences.

    • Tompengo 1:08 am on March 25, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Unfortunately Community College and Top 1% schools do not offer the same “perceived” educational value.

      • ContactRida 2:54 am on March 25, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        lets agree to disagree. you don’t bother to show your face. perhaps when you believe more strongly in your convictions you will put your face to it.

    • Dawn 6:02 pm on March 23, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I will never understand the “taking my clothes off for other peoples pleasure is empowering” argument. Ask Madonna how she feels about her sex book now that she is a Mom. Sex is powerful yes. Its her body yes. But by no means does sex empower the body when it is exchanged for cash and other people’s pleasure. It cheapens it and only reinforces the female body to be an object to be used. I would go out on a limb and guess someone taught her that lesson already.

      Well said Rida 🙂

      • ContactRida 12:23 am on March 24, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        thank you. i wish i could make every female see that she is so much more than a sexual object. it breaks my heart and also enrages me to hear, “sex empowers me.” sex and power must never be in the same sentence. but we all must learn our own lessons in our own time.

    • Olbas 4:04 pm on March 21, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I get the point of this letter but it misses a few points. Whatever we may think Belle may feel it does empower her. Who can speak for her emotions but herself?

      Malala Yusufzai is a hero. She heralds from the FATA region that is littered with terrorists. She was feted by her country folk at large and the world – but this is a different issue. In a way, Miriam Weeks too is fighting for an education.

      She should have gone to a state school for cheap if you ask me my personal view. But she is smart, sassy and beautiful. There is a picture of her pre-porn and she looks like the ideal Geek Princess we all desire. Now that girl is lost to history and that aspect is a tad sad.

      All in all, leave her alone. Its her body, her life. Maybe she just likes wild sex – she should just say that and be done with it. She strikes me as a pretty, smart girl who needed cash. Was her decision ideal – who is to say?

      I’m a PhD student at a state school and whilst I would not turn to porn as as a guy, it’s hard to get a break – if the option realistically existed, I’d probably take it too!

      • ContactRida 9:54 pm on March 21, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        thank you for your response. it is a false empowerment she claims. if she wants her 15 minutes, then no, i will not leave her alone. don’t inject yourself into the public light and cry privacy when you are called out.

  • ContactRida 7:02 am on March 20, 2014 Permalink | Reply

    my name is wanted 

    my name is pain
    for all the unwarranted beatings you gave me
    my name is sorrow
    for telling me you wish i wasn’t born
    my name is shame
    for making me feel like i was the sole cause of all of your woes
    my name is damaged
    for what you let happen to me
    my name is worthless
    for never saying how much i meant to you
    my name is exposed
    for never feeling safe with you
    my name is anger
    for seeing what i missed out on
    my name is empty
    for having to start all over again
    my name is motion
    for destroying and laying my new foundation
    my name is persevere
    for always believing in more
    my name is open
    for allowing others to love me
    my name is forgive
    for seeing you did the best you could
    my name is querida
    it means “wanted”
    your name is Mom
    for now i see you always loved me


    photo credit: http://s37.photobucket.com/user/iwanttobeaphotographerwhenigrowup/media/Nudes/lolanbumpweb2.jpg.html


  • ContactRida 11:56 am on March 19, 2014 Permalink | Reply

    WP Weekly Challenge 

    Let’s all get in better shape for the new year and for the rest of our lives. It starts with one step. To participate, tag your post with 2014Challenge and include a link to this post, to generate a pingback and help others find our challenges.

    Enjoy and Share.

    (it gets dark twice since the lights have burned out in the stairwell. nice. i am getting better at walking 13 flights. can’t wait til my BowFlex comes:)

  • ContactRida 11:57 pm on March 17, 2014 Permalink | Reply
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    love at first sight (part II) 

    The property was overgrown with ivy, bushes, bamboo, anything and everything that could grow and stake its unrightful claim. They had only walked a few yards alongside the house, but he could no longer see the street, “or the sun,” he thought.  The back porch was in desperate need of new floorboards and a few coats of paint. He watched as she opened the back door. Watched how she never looked back at him, almost daring him. He became aware of his breathing. It felt heavy, forced. “Close the door behind you and lock it please.” She spoke so casually, with such familiarity, it frightened him and soothed him at the same time.

    The outside belied the Victorian gem within. Flawless parquet flooring, intricate wainscoting, sparkling chandeliers graced this home. It smelled of many generations passed. There was legacy here. All around him. He followed her into the kitchen. In the center of the kitchen table was a small arrangement of fresh, wild lilies. She opened the fridge and pulled out two glass Coca Cola bottles. “Thirsty?” she asked as the bottles clinked together. He hesitated. “Don’t worry, I only poison guests on trash day.” she said as she handed him the chilled bottle. She leaned back against the counter and smiled, “Trash day was yesterday,” she said with a sinful giggle that dropped his defenses and left him helpless to her charms.

    She threw him her bottle opener after opening her drink. He watched as her full, cherry lips pursed the bottle and the cola slowly and seductively flowed into her mouth. He watched and listened to her take each swallow. “You like to watch?” she asked coquettishly. He popped his cap off at that precise moment and it bounced across the floor landing under the stove. “Don’t worry about that,” she said to him, “drink up, we’ve much to discuss.” He drank, his eyes never leaving her as if the memory of her would fade if he stopped looking. He wanted to consume her but not in that way. She made him want to be something other than what he was, something more. Thoughts of Bonnie and Clyde ran through his head. “And that turned out so well,” he stupidly thought to himself.

    He said with a little too much base in his voice, “I don’t even know your name girl.” “Did you know any of their names?” she shot back. “What?” he said. “You strike me as a Peggy Lee type of man.” she stated in a monotone. He tried to ask, “What?” again but the words wouldn’t come. The bottle dropped from his hand. He felt weak, nauseated. He looked over to her as he collapsed, saw her ankles move toward him, saw her kneel down in front of him, “Peggy Lee it is.” were the last words he heard her utter before darkness consumed him.


    to be continued…

    photo credit: http://fc01.deviantart.net/fs71/i/2013/092/0/b/coca_cola_bottle_cap_by_crepusclo-d606zh2.png

  • ContactRida 11:59 pm on March 16, 2014 Permalink | Reply  

    still dark until midterm is done… 

    I submitted my midterm paper, arriving 15 minutes late for my double shift at work. Now I must buckle down and study for my in class midterm on Monday. My fingers are crossed for a blizzard to hit Philly to cancel class. I can only hope for the best:)

    Until then…  I have some great ideas for part two of Love at First Sight (I think that’s what I called it)…

    • Sreejit Poole 1:30 am on March 17, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Still waiting on that part 2! Good luck with your exam

      • ContactRida 3:08 am on March 17, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        thanks… still studying listening, to the wind howl, teasing me of heavy snowfall, but probably producing only light coverage with sunny skies in time for my 4pm exam:(

  • ContactRida 9:47 pm on March 11, 2014 Permalink | Reply
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    midterm + paper = going dark 

    Working full-time and going to school part-time is not ideal. I’m off to work now, so I can’t do my weekly run up the stairwell. I need to get some studying in if only 20 minutes. Know I will return by 3/16/14 Sunday.

    In the meantime, here’s a good site for citation help: http://www.citefast.com/

    My paper will be from the articles below. So I will be writing, just not here:(

    Banks, J. (2012). Storytelling to access social context and advance health equity research. Preventive Medicine, 55(5), 394?397. doi:10.1016/j.ypmed.2011.10.015

    Billings, D. M., & Halstead, J. A. (2012). Teaching in Nursing: A Guide for Faculty (4th ed.). St. Louis, MO: Elsevier Saunders.

    Christiansen, A. (2011). Storytelling and professional learning: A phenomenographic study of students’ experience of patient digital stories in nurse education. Nurse Education Today, 31, 289-293. doi:10.1016/j.nedt.2010.10.006

    Haigh, C., & Hardy, P. (2011). Tell me a story: A conceptual exploration of storytelling in healthcare education. Nurse Education Today, 31(4), 408-411. doi:10.1016/j.nedt.2010.08.001

    Kantor, S. A. (2010). Pedagogical Change in Nursing Education: One instructor’s experience. Journal of Nursing Education, 49(7), 414-417. doi:10.3928/01484834-20100331-06

    Stanley, M. J., & Dougherty , J. P. (2010). A paradigm shift in nursing education: a new model. Nursing Education Perspectives, 31(6), 378-80.


    • Karuna 11:10 pm on March 11, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Reading this post was like a flashback to my past. I worked and raised kids when I went to school for my Masters in Nursing and from 1974-1979 I was Assistant Professor in Nursing at the University of Washington! That time was so long ago it feels like a past life. I hope you enjoy writing your paper and look forward to you coming back to the blog!

      • Karuna 1:28 am on March 12, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        I am replying to amend what I said to you earlier! The memories I mentioned are real but the timing was off. I was already teaching at the University of Washington School of Nursing when my son Sreejit was born.

        I was actually remembering a time in the mid 80’s. At that point, I worked part time, raised kids and went to school. Two years into my pre-doctoral program I changed my mind and decided to start a private psychotherapy practice instead.

        Nursing is a great field. You can go so many different directions with it.

        • ContactRida 10:16 am on March 12, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          understood. nursing is great because you can go many different directions. it’s just the ‘waiting to change direction’ part that is annoying:)

          • Karuna 10:23 am on March 12, 2014 Permalink | Reply

            I most definitely resonate with that sentiment!

      • ContactRida 10:14 am on March 12, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        thank you:)

    • andy1076 10:10 pm on March 11, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      That’s quite a lot of reading etc :O

    • kbeezyisviral 9:49 pm on March 11, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Study hard and keep your head up.

  • ContactRida 2:56 am on March 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply
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    love at first sight 

    “Death is visiting with you today.” He did enjoy the acknowledgement of life’s circle in their eyes… in the beginning, but lately he’s been contemplating the future, his future, his legacy. He believed the universe is plentiful for those who honor their passion. The universe places judgment only on those who deny their true nature. “A bird’s gotta fly. A fish gotta swim. And I gotta tend to my flock.”

    He slowly wiped the condensation from the bathroom mirror revealing his eyes. Not shark eyes, but predator eyes. He saw them once. “Excuse me miss, I’m a lil loss, not from these parts. Could you help me fine Pop-lar street?” he delicately asked turning on his Southern charm. She looked at him as he sat in his running SUV. She stared. She didn’t move. “Be careful what you ask for,” she said without averting her eyes. Her eyes made him feel small, like he was a little boy getting viciously whipped, cowering in the corner of his daddy’s shed.

    She casually stepped from the  sidewalk to the passenger side of his vehicle. “Turn off the ignition and hand me the keys.” Those eyes of hers. They saw him. He was afraid but he saw his hands turning off the ignition. He saw himself giving her his keys, but he couldn’t stop himself. Her eyes never left him, like a master testing her dog for obedience. He looked away. He looked down and gripped the steering wheel with white knuckles. His throat was ash dry and he couldn’t swallow. He felt tears welling in his eyes about to drop.

    “Let me show you something.” she said softly but firmly. She started walking away. Just like that. She walked away. He looked at her move so effortlessly almost floating with her broad shoulders and muscular calves. “Thisiscrazythisiscrazythisiscrazy!” he screamed nonsensically in his head. He thought he might piss himself. Then she looked over her shoulder and shot him a sultry Mona Lisa smile, beckoning him. He had to follow her. Had to see this to its inevitable end. “Would death be visiting with me today?” he meekly implored of himself. He did not know, but everything in his body wanted to follow her… anywhere… everywhere… nowhere.

    follow me

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    entry for: http://elizabethfrattaroli.wordpress.com/monthly-mini-writing-comps/ &
    http://theseekersdungeon.com/category/dungeon-prompts/ & http://fireflydance.net/category/weekly-highlights/weekly-writing-challenge/

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